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各位家人，

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謝謝大家願意一起聊聊。

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聽到學佛，

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有人會想到燒香、拜佛、

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念經，

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也有人覺得經論很深，

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不知道從哪裡開始。

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這些疑問都很自然。

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今天依《菩提道次第廣論》

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與《廣海明月》的教導，

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用生活中的小事，

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介紹佛法如何引導我們

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認識苦樂、調整言行，

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也學習照顧家人。

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故事和每日練習是方便理解

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的安排，

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會與經論的教說分清楚。

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我們可以先帶著一個

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問題來聽：

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最近相處時，

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哪一件事讓我最容易著急？

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聽完以後，

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選一個做得到的方法試試

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看。

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不必急著作出承諾，

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有不懂的地方，

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可以慢慢問。

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先說一句心裡話：

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家人願不願意參與、一次聽

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多少，

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都可以尊重自己的步調。

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我們希望彼此更了解，

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也希望把有益的方法帶進

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日常相處。

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如果一位家人開始學佛，

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最有說服力的分享，

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往往是他願意多聽幾句、少

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一點責備，

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做錯時肯道歉。

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有這樣的改變，

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其他人才比較容易感到

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安心，

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也願意繼續了解。

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今天的內容，

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可以當作一份共學邀請。

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覺得有道理，

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就先試一件小事；

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覺得有疑問，

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就把問題記下。

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信心可以建立在了解與思考

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上，

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家人之間也不必拿學佛來比

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較誰比較好。

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今天分成五個部分。

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先認識佛法離苦得樂的

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方向，

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再看看自己的看法，

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如何影響心情與回應。

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接著了解業果，

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學習對動機和行為負責。

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第四部分，

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談人生的珍貴與無常，

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幫助我們珍惜還能學習、還

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能相處的時間。

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最後回到家裡：

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每天如何從行動、說話與心

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念開始練習。

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這五部分是為家人入門安排

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的路線，

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不是《廣論》的完整科判。

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經論還有很深廣的次第。

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我們先把眼前的一步走

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清楚，

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再依具學修的師長引導，

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逐漸深入。

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第一部分，

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佛法是什麼？《廣海明月》

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第一百七十二講，

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從苦與樂說明學習佛法的

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目的。

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這和我們每天的生活，

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其實很有關係。

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忙著工作、準備一餐、關心

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孩子，

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我們都盼望自己與家人少受

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一點苦。

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佛法進一步問：

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什麼原因帶來苦，

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什麼方法能夠離苦？

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我們先從這個問題開始。

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日常老和尚說明佛法的

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目的，

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是去掉苦、圓滿得到樂。

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我們都希望日子好過一些，

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但有時候方法用錯了，

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明明想關心，

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出口卻成了責備；

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明明想休息，

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心裡卻一直爭論。

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佛法引導我們認識苦樂的

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因，

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學習取捨。

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今天少說一句傷人的話，

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是一個能開始的地方。

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繼續學下去，

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還要透過戒定慧，

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認識煩惱、培養智慧，

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趣向解脫與圓滿菩提。

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所以，

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眼前相處的改善，

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可以成為入門的體會；

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佛法的目標還有更深遠的

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方向。

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祈求三寶加持，

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也可以和自己的學習、實踐

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一起進行。

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學佛，

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可以先從了解佛陀的教導

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開始。

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佛陀指出離苦得樂的道路，

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我們需要聽聞、思考，

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再依教調整行為。

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皈依三寶與祈求加持，

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也有它的功德與學處，

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值得逐步了解。

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如果拜佛時總是擔心次數不

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夠，

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或把每一次不順利都猜成受

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了懲罰，

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可以先停下來，

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把疑問記清楚，

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依經論向具學修的師長

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請益。

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家裡原有的習慣，

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也可以用尊重的語氣商量。

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例如問：

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這個做法的意義是什麼？

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我們可以怎麼理解？

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先了解，

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再調整，

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讓家人有機會一起學習。

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也不憑某人今天是否平靜，

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就判定他的信仰是否正確。

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《廣海明月》第三講從

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自覺、覺他、覺行圓滿，

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介紹菩提的意義。

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第五講也鼓勵我們，

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成佛之道可以從凡夫當下的

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一步開始學習。

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對初學家人來說，

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可以先了解：

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佛教所尊敬的佛陀，

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是圓滿覺悟、具足智慧與

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慈悲的導師。

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他教導的道路，

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需要我們依次第學習。

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這是一項教義說明，

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不是說自己聽懂幾句，

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就已經達到那樣的境界。

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像學走路，

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先能站穩，

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再一步一步走。

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今天願意認識一個善法，

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遇到事情多想一下，

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已經有了可以練習的起點。

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遇到不懂的深義，

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就留下問題，

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繼續聞思。

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第二部分，

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來看看自己的心。《廣海

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明月》第二十講，

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提醒我們觀察：

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對一件事的看法，

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如何影響自己的苦樂。

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同一場雨，

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有人想到衣服曬不乾，

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有人想到花草得到水。

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練習觀察這個差別，

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有助於我們找到調整的

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空間。

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同時，

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外在困難仍需要處理，

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受傷的感受也需要被理解。

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同樣遇到塞車，

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有人心裡一直責怪，

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有人先確認是否需要通知

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家人，

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再等待路況。

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事情沒有立刻改變，

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心裡的解讀與接下來的

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行動，

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卻可能不同。

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第二十講引導我們，

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把目光轉回自己的看法。

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可以先問：

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我現在確實知道的是什麼？

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哪些是我還沒確認的猜測？

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例如家人回話很短，

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我想到的是他討厭我，

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還是他現在可能很累？

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這不是要求每件事都往好

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處解釋。

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有傷害，

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就需要辨認、保護自己並

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處理。

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觀察自心，

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是多找到一個可以努力的

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地方，

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不能拿來責怪正在痛苦的

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人。

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第二十講以《入行論》的

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皮革譬喻說明調心：

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與其想用皮革覆蓋整個

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大地，

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可以先護住自己的腳底。

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生活中，

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我們也常希望每個人都照

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自己的想法做。

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比方說，

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想讓家人收拾餐桌，

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可以把需要說清楚：

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我今天有點累，

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你願意幫忙把碗拿到廚房

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嗎？

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我們先調整表達，

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再一起商量，

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比要求別人猜中自己的

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心意，

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更容易開始。

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這雙鞋，

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是幫助我們學習善巧回應的

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譬喻。

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修心仍需與改善環境、尋求

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支持一起進行。

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遇到持續傷害時，

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設立界線、離開危險，

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也可以是有智慧的選擇。

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心情不好時，

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可以依第二十四講覺察、轉

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心的方向，

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安排四個生活練習。

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這四步是教材整理，

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並非原講次列出的固定

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程序。

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先發現：

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我現在有點急、很委屈。

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再暫緩回應，

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慢慢呼吸幾次，

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讓自己不用立刻說出傷人

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的話。

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接著，

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想一個比較合宜的做法，

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例如先說：

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我需要一點時間，

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等一下再談。

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最後，

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在日常繼續練習。

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晚上可以回想，

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今天有沒有一次，

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比平常早一點發現情緒？

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沒有做到，

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也可以再開始。

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調整需要時間；

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心情仍然難受時，

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也可以接受家人的陪伴，

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不必勉強自己立刻轉好。

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第三部分，

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談業果與日常取捨。《

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廣論》深信業果的教說，

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勸我們認識善惡行為與苦樂

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果報的關係，

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從現在的動機與行動開始

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負責。

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理解這個方向，

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是用來提醒自己少造傷害、

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多修善行。

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我們不因為看到某個人

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受苦，

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就猜測他做過什麼，

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更不能把教義變成責備他人

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的話。

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《廣論》說業決定、業增

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長廣大、未造不遇、已造不

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失。

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可以借種田的譬喻入門，

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但業果比種田深細，

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不能直接當成一張立即兌換

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的表格。

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業決定，

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說明善業與樂果、不善業與

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苦果的關係。

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業增長廣大，

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提醒我們重視微小的善惡。

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未造不遇，

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是說未集能感該果的業因，

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不會受那個業果；

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不能只憑眼前記得的幾件

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事，

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推算宿業。

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已造不失，

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提醒我們慎重取捨，

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同時仍須了解懺悔對治、

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護持善根等教導，

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不是說一切結果永遠無法

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改變。

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今天真誠幫忙一件事，

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值得珍惜；

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也不要求明天就一定得到某

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種回報。

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受到傷害時，

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會生氣、難過，

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都是需要被看見的感受。《

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廣海明月》第一百二十六講

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提醒我們，

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仍然可以選擇行善，

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逐步找回對自己行動的

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主動。

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例如聽到傷人的話，

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可以先離開現場，

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等情緒緩和，

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再說明自己的界線：

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這樣的話讓我受傷，

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我希望我們換個方式談。

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需要時，

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也可以尋求可信任的人

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協助。

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行善與保護自己可以一起

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進行。

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不報復，

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不表示必須繼續接受傷害；

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原諒也不必由別人催促。

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當有一點力量時，

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選擇不再把傷害傳下去，

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並做一件能力所及的善事，

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就是今天可以練習的方向。

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第四部分，

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人生很珍貴。《廣論》借《

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入行論》人身如筏的譬喻，

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勸我們珍惜能夠學習與修行

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的機會。

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一條筏的價值，

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在於可以用它渡河。

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人生的珍貴，

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也在於我們還能理解、作出

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選擇、練習離苦之道。

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今天先把能使用的一點

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時間，

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好好用在善法上。

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《廣論》談暇滿，

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有具體的條件，

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並不等於所有人生都已完整

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具足。

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初學時，

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可以先檢視自己現在還有

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哪些學習機會：

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能聽懂一段教導，

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有可以請益的人，

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或有一點時間做善事。

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第一百九十九講指出，

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即使生活遇到不順，

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能修學斷惡行善的機會，

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仍然值得珍惜。

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這個寶，

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不是外面的奇物，

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而是能依教修行的條件與

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能力。

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經論用爪上塵與大地土比喻

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善趣難得，

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是勸勉珍惜修善因緣，

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不能當成現代人口比例。

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我們也不拿身體狀況、年齡

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或學習速度，

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比較一個人的價值。

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依自己的能力，

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把今天的一點善意實踐

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出來。

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念死無常，

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提醒我們死亡一定會來，

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時間卻不能預先確定。

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第一百九十六與一百九十七

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講，

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引導我們把這份認識用在

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珍惜修學的機會上。

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生活裡，

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可以先想一件還來得及做的

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事：

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向照顧自己的人道謝，

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把答應家人的事完成，

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對傷人的話真誠道歉。

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有條件時，

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也安排一段聽聞與思考的

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時間。

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無常的提醒，

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需要照顧自己的承受能力。

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不用反覆想像可怕的畫面，

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也不催促正在悲傷的家人。

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讓我們慢慢把重點放在：

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既然還有今天，

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什麼事情值得認真去做？

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《廣論》念死無常中，

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說明親友雖然憐愛，

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不能代替我們經歷死亡；

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財物也無法持往後世。

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這不是否定家人的照顧，

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而是提醒我們珍惜修法

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與取捨業果。

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佛教教導，

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善惡業與心續相關，

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影響後世的趣向。

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這個範圍比個性好、習慣好

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更深，

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需要依經論逐步學習。

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現前可以做的，

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是培養誠實、不傷害、感恩

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與負責，

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遇到過失願意懺悔改進。

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家人的愛，

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今天仍然可以給出來：

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好好傾聽、照顧生活、陪伴

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需要的人。

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同時，

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也為自己培養持續修學的

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方向。

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對較深的生命教義，

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暫時不懂，

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可以帶著問題請益。

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最後一部分，

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怎麼開始？

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第五百六十九講以眼睛與

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燈光譬喻聽聞。

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燈亮了，

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我們才比較容易看清楚

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道路。

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學習也是如此。

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00:14:00,337 --> 00:14:01,364
先聽一小段，

436
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弄懂它在說什麼，

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再想想和自己的生活有什麼

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關係。

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聽不懂就回頭查、向師長

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請教，

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不必急著把所有道理一次記

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住。

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對佛法的信心，

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可以透過聽聞、思考

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與實踐，

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逐步培養。

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第五十講說明了解與依教

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實踐的次第，

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第五百六十九講也強調聽聞

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對辨別善惡的幫助。《

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廣論》說若數數思，

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漸能深信，

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原來在憶念三寶功德、皈依

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的脈絡。

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這提醒我們，

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信心有它思考的內容與

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理由，

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並非只是多試幾次，

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心情好一點，

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就證明所有教義。

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生活練習的體會，

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可以鼓勵我們繼續學。

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至於業果、心續、解脫與

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菩提等深義，

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需要依可靠經論，

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向具學修的師長請益，

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持續聞思。

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疑問可以誠實保留，

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已經理解的善法，

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就認真做下去。

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從家裡開始，

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可以安排三個小練習。

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身，

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做一件家人需要而自己做

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得到的事。

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先問一句需要幫忙嗎，

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再倒茶、洗碗或陪伴，

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讓關心符合對方的需要。

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口，

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說一句真實而有益的話。

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謝謝你、辛苦了、對不起，

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都要帶著誠意，

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也配合後續行動；

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不用好聽的話掩飾欺騙或

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推卸。

486
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意，

487
00:15:35,403 --> 00:15:37,042
睡前想一件感恩的事，

488
00:15:37,389 --> 00:15:40,000
再發願明天少一分傷害、多

489
00:15:40,000 --> 00:15:40,778
一分照顧。

490
00:15:41,403 --> 00:15:43,403
這是身語意的入門練習，

491
00:15:43,639 --> 00:15:46,459
並不等同已圓滿十善業道。

492
00:15:47,070 --> 00:15:48,139
每週若方便，

493
00:15:48,445 --> 00:15:50,667
可以一起聽一小段《廣海

494
00:15:50,681 --> 00:15:51,056
明月》，

495
00:15:51,375 --> 00:15:52,528
討論一個問題，

496
00:15:52,736 --> 00:15:54,556
各自選一件事練習。

497
00:15:55,195 --> 00:15:56,611
時間依能力安排，

498
00:15:56,959 --> 00:15:58,486
漏做了就接著做。

499
00:16:00,754 --> 00:16:03,545
第十五講談到法的改變與救

500
00:16:03,545 --> 00:16:03,781
護，

501
00:16:04,059 --> 00:16:06,420
引導我們透過正確見解

502
00:16:06,448 --> 00:16:07,101
與實踐，

503
00:16:07,379 --> 00:16:09,420
調整走向痛苦的方向。

504
00:16:10,065 --> 00:16:12,412
生活裡的焦慮、失落與

505
00:16:12,426 --> 00:16:12,940
害怕，

506
00:16:13,148 --> 00:16:15,092
可以成為學習的起點。

507
00:16:15,731 --> 00:16:17,106
這需要漸次培養，

508
00:16:17,342 --> 00:16:19,245
不能要求自己聽完一場，

509
00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:20,495
就不再悲傷，

510
00:16:20,787 --> 00:16:22,259
也不因為仍然難過，

511
00:16:22,481 --> 00:16:24,273
就認為自己沒有信心。

512
00:16:24,912 --> 00:16:27,301
家人可以先陪伴、聽對方說

513
00:16:27,301 --> 00:16:27,579
完，

514
00:16:27,829 --> 00:16:29,704
幫忙處理眼前的困難。

515
00:16:30,342 --> 00:16:31,481
持續學下去，

516
00:16:31,745 --> 00:16:33,190
還要透過戒定慧，

517
00:16:33,495 --> 00:16:35,704
認識煩惱與解脫之道。

518
00:16:36,315 --> 00:16:37,662
照顧當下的心，

519
00:16:37,967 --> 00:16:39,842
與更長遠的修學方向，

520
00:16:40,023 --> 00:16:41,398
可以一起進行。

521
00:16:42,023 --> 00:16:44,342
今天願意少一點傷害、多一

522
00:16:44,356 --> 00:16:45,023
點理解，

523
00:16:45,259 --> 00:16:47,023
就是可以開始的一步。

524
00:16:49,283 --> 00:16:49,695
最後，

525
00:16:50,050 --> 00:16:51,271
讓我們為家人，

526
00:16:51,499 --> 00:16:53,786
也為更多需要陪伴的人，

527
00:16:54,013 --> 00:16:55,078
作一個祝願。

528
00:16:55,724 --> 00:16:58,310
願我們珍惜還能相處與學習

529
00:16:58,310 --> 00:16:58,849
的時間，

530
00:16:59,048 --> 00:17:01,491
在一餐飯、一句話、一件

531
00:17:01,506 --> 00:17:02,287
小事裡，

532
00:17:02,528 --> 00:17:04,943
練習誠實、體諒與慈悲。

533
00:17:05,568 --> 00:17:07,557
祈求三寶慈悲加持，

534
00:17:07,855 --> 00:17:08,920
願家人平安，

535
00:17:09,247 --> 00:17:11,335
願一切眾生離苦得樂。

536
00:17:11,974 --> 00:17:14,304
願以今日所學與所修善根，

537
00:17:14,588 --> 00:17:15,966
迴向利益眾生，

538
00:17:16,363 --> 00:17:18,537
願我們持續學習智慧與

539
00:17:18,551 --> 00:17:19,020
慈悲，

540
00:17:19,233 --> 00:17:20,738
趣向圓滿菩提。

541
00:17:21,392 --> 00:17:23,040
這是一份願學的方向，

542
00:17:23,366 --> 00:17:25,256
我們可以一步一步實踐，

543
00:17:25,483 --> 00:17:27,784
不急著替自己的修行下

544
00:17:27,798 --> 00:17:28,196
結論。

545
00:17:30,514 --> 00:17:32,777
謝謝家人們願意一起聽、

546
00:17:33,055 --> 00:17:33,750
一起想。

547
00:17:34,366 --> 00:17:36,186
今天可以先挑一件事：

548
00:17:36,519 --> 00:17:37,797
開口前停一下，

549
00:17:38,005 --> 00:17:39,575
真誠向家人道謝，

550
00:17:39,811 --> 00:17:41,616
或把答應的幫忙做完。

551
00:17:42,255 --> 00:17:42,839
有疑問，

552
00:17:43,061 --> 00:17:43,783
就記下來，

553
00:17:43,977 --> 00:17:46,839
依經論繼續學習、向具學修

554
00:17:46,839 --> 00:17:47,908
的師長請益。

555
00:17:48,547 --> 00:17:50,408
也可以在下次相聚時，

556
00:17:50,686 --> 00:17:52,519
分享自己觀察到什麼，

557
00:17:52,852 --> 00:17:54,089
遇到什麼困難。

558
00:17:54,727 --> 00:17:57,075
讓學習成為家人彼此理解的

559
00:17:57,089 --> 00:17:57,533
機會。

560
00:17:58,172 --> 00:17:59,241
願大家平安，

561
00:17:59,561 --> 00:18:01,936
願我們把聽懂的一點善法，

562
00:18:02,214 --> 00:18:03,741
帶進今天的生活。

563
00:18:04,380 --> 00:18:05,130
感恩大家，

564
00:18:05,408 --> 00:18:06,352
阿彌陀佛。